Am I Being Abusive?

• Control your partner by being very bossy, giving orders, making all the decisions.

• Use weapons to show power.

• Pressure your partner for sex, act forceful or scary around sex. Do you say, “If you really loved me you would…” Do you get too serious about the relationship too fast.

• Blame your partner for when you get upset. Do you find yourself saying, “You know what makes me angry so it’s your fault.”

• Have a history of bad relationships and blame the other person for all the problems.

• Act jealous and possessive toward your partner : not let them have friends, check up on her, refuse to break up.

• Ignore what your partner wants.

• Use violence: have a history of fighting, lose temper quickly, mistreat others.

• Abuse drugs or alcohol and pressure your partner to take them.

• Expect your partner to be with you all the time.

• Hit, threaten or hurt your partner when you are angry.